2019 Presenters
Arli
1950’s household to a Top leaning switch and everything in between, Arli has been delighting in BDSM for 35 years. A community disorganizer and educator since the mid 90s in her home city of Vancouver, Canada. An enthusiastic little, Arli and her Easy Bake oven have been exploring age play long before it was acceptable. A proud member of the Vancouver Away Team, Arli is delighted to return to DESIRE again this year.
- Sunday 10:00 PM: Canes
Workshop: And Now We are Six! The joys of Age Play, Saturday 10:00am – 11:30am
However you identify age play can be a fun and edgy place to play. Arli May is known to be a precocious five year old with a traveling Easy Bake oven. Arli began exploring her little side at a time when age play was regularly barred from most public and private dungeons. Over the years Age Play has become more and more acceptable and celebrated. Let’s us explore together littles as bottoms and tops and the fun that can ensue!
Workshop: The Fun Starts after the Needles are IN, Sunday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Are you a fan of blood? Do you love screaming and begging? Maybe you are an enthusiastic sadist or masochist? This class maybe for you.
Enjoying needle play for more than 20 years for Arli the fun has always been once the needles are in. Join her as she discusses and demonstrates how to make the most of the needles. Be it creating arts and crafts or inflicting maximum pain this will be a fun and blood filled afternoon.
COMMUNITY EVENT:
Saturday 4:00pm Fat Politics – Liberation vs Positivity – Hosted by Arli (fire pit)
Small Group Mentoring Topics:
- Negotiating Aftercare: Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm
- Saline Infusion: Saturday 2:00pm-3:00pm
1-1 Topics
Friday 2:00pm-3:00pm and Sunday 4:30pm-5:30pm
- Age Play
- Canes and Rods
- Daddy girl/boy Relationships
- Impact Play
- Little, Middles, Bigs
- Needle Play
- Playing/sexuality at 50+
- Rough Body Play/Stomping
- Event organizing
- Dungeon Facilitation(monitoring) Team approach
- Distance D/s
- D/s problem solving
Bikkja Amy
Bikkja Amy is the new Co-owner/Producer of DESIRE and the Contestant Coordinator for IMsL/IMsBB (2007- current). She has been creating mischief in the San Diego and Central Valley Leather Communities for the last 17 years. True to her Capricorn nature, she jumped right into her career as a Kinky Woman when she first moved to San Diego in 2000, by becoming a member and board member of Leather and Sisterhood (L.A.S.H.) She then became Knight of Leather 2002. She facilitated the San Diego Women’s Leather Rap group and co-founded the Modesto Women’s BDSM Forum in 2004-06. She became Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) in 2006 and sat on the board until the title retired in 2015. Bikkja was on The Leather Realm committee at San Diego Gay Pride from 2007 to 2017. She has the honor of being Mama’s Bikkja. As a player, she is a true Switch who is particularly fond of blood. She spends her time in San Diego with her wife, Naria, her submissive and partner “toi”. She is also Mommy to her little boi, her 2 cats and 2 dogs, as well as a household of assorted pervs.
Not that long ago switches were not highly looked upon because it was perceived that they just couldn’t make up their minds about what they wanted. However, many in the Women’s Leather Community fully embraced the identity and fucked up the status quo in all of the best ways! Whether you’re a true switch, a top heavy or bottom heavy switch, this class will further examine the true joys of switching!
1-1 or Small Group Mentoring topics: None
Bikkja’s toi, Kelli Kae
Presenter/EPIC Chef/Producer’s Assistant
Kelli Kae aka Bikkja’s toi, is a skilled player and purveyor of sadistic fun. She identifies as a gender fluid, poly, switchy service top. Secretly kinky as a young adult, she’s now a full-grown, dapper leather boi with over five years of proud service and involvement in the San Diego BDSM and California Leather scene. She has been an educator in workshop/demos on Shaving, Piercing, Saline Infusion, Cutting, Cell Popping, Body Bags, Polyamory, Wax Play and Electrical Play. She has volunteered in San Diego Pride’s Leather Realm since 2013. She serves on staff for IMsLBB and DESIRE where she grills up tasty barbecue under the scorching sun as part of the EPIC Chef Duo.
- Friday 10:00 PM: Vacuum Bag
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Vacuum Bag
Small Group Mentoring topics:
- Cupping – Blood Friday 1:00pm- 2:00pm
Brigette
RITL
Brigette is a top switchy poly leather queer who has 30 years clean and sober. If you are wondering how kink and clean/sober can work together, or if you just need to feel grounded in your sobriety, stop in for a brief meeting or check up over the weekend. Meetings based on the 12 steps of recovery.
Carmelle La Sirena
Carmelle La Sirena is an Artist and Leather Dyke that has lived a Leather Lifestyle for over 25 years. From humble beginnings in Southern California, to Seattle and New York, she has been active in the Leather Community for over 25 years. Carmelle’s passion is erotic and fetish photography and painting. Her Leather life spans from mentoring newcomers, IML Contestants and supporting various Leather causes including but not limed to the Leather Heart Foundation. She continues to work on her Photographic Documentary, We are Leather and We are Leather Women and is an active member of the Leather Contingent in New York City. Portrait of Carmelle by Syliva Usle
Friday 5:30pm Room 5
Carmelle La Sirena will be giving a special presentation and talk on her work and photography as an artist in the Leather Community. This presentation will be showcasing rarely seen photographs and film shorts that make up the Documentary, We are Leather Women.
Nexus of Desires:
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Caning
Workshop: Hot Leather Straps, Saturday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
The Art of Sexual Sensation Play
Watch and learn the connection between various techniques used for taking someone on a whirlwind ride of erotic and sensual body play. This is a fun, hands-on class using everything from hydrotherapy to food to enliven the senses.
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Friday 1:00pm-2:00pm and Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm
- Canes and Rods
- D/s in Poly Relationships
- Electricity
- Erotic Shaving
- Flogging
- Impact Play
- Interrogation Play
- Negotiating Aftercare
- Negotiating/Writing Contracts
- Power Exchange
- Rough Body Play/Stomping
- Scene Construction
- Sensory Deprivation
- Spanking
- Uniforms
- Wax
- Whips
- Erotic / Fetish Photography
Carol
Presenter/Performer
carol has been part of the Southern California community since 2012 and a participant at DESIRE every year since. She is in a 24/7 D/s relationship with her Daddy for over 7 years. She is an active member and current Secretary of the San Diego Girls of Leather. She started performing in Phoenix, AZ in 2009 as a drag king and femme/burlesque performer and has performed all over Arizona, southern California (including at Desire!), and even in Oklahoma City and considers performing her “gateway kink”. She is honored to be back at Desire for 2019!
Workshop: Your Submission is Not My Submission, Friday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Co-lead by Carol, Ronise and Denise
This panel of submissives, bottoms, and masochists will explore the rewards and challenges of being on the right side of the slash. The panel will lead discussion on the myth of the “perfect” submissive, how to not be a doormat, and protocols that work with your dynamic. However, they plan to let the discussion lead them. All are welcome but this is a “right side” focused topic.
Workshop: Finding Power through Performance, Sunday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
Have you ever watched a performance and wished you could join in? Have you ever rocked out in your car or in the shower and wished you could do so before an audience? Have you ever wanted to take the stage but something held you back? This workshop will work to make performing accessible. We will focus on some basic skills for gaining confidence and power as a performer, developing a character, and demystifying blocking and simple choreography through learning a simple, lip-synched burlesque(or boi-lesque!) style ensemble number. All skill levels are welcome and no experience is necessary. No singing or musical skills required.
1-1 Mentoring topics:
Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm, Saturday 1:00pm-2:00pm, Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm, and Sunday 10:30am-11:30am
- Impact Play
- Spanking
- Performing as an expression of exhibitionist fetish
- Finding confidence as a performer
- Negotiating as a submissive
Crys&Ronise
Presenter/Education Coordinator
Crys&Ronise (Xeta and LoveSexyMuffin on FetLife) have been married and in a D/s relationship since 1993 and out in the San Diego Kink Community since 2011. They continue to explore new skills and expressions of their power exchange while balancing careers and kids. Both enjoy impact, breath, and objectification play.
- Friday and Saturday 7:30pm Wheel of Pain Contest (located near rm 14)
Nexus of Desires:
- Sunday 10:00 PM: Caning and Spanking/Slapping
Workshop: Avoiding Con Drop – Keeping Desire Alive, Friday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
Desire makes us feel sexy, open, grounded and connected to our community. When we leave, sometimes we crash – HARD. Those feelings fade away and we spend days or weeks feeling lethargic, sad, and wounded. Wouldn’t it be amazing to keep those feelings alive after the event and throughout the year?
Workshop: Your Submission is Not My Submission, Friday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Co-lead by Carol, Ronise and Denise
This panel of submissives, bottoms, and masochists will explore the rewards and challenges of being on the right side of the slash. The panel will lead discussion on the myth of the “perfect” submissive, how to not be a doormat, and protocols that work with your dynamic. However, they plan to let the discussion lead them. All are welcome but this is a “right side” focused topic.
Small Group Mentoring Topics:
- Role Play: Sunday 11:00am-12:00pm
1-1 Mentoring Topics: Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Breathplay
- Canes and Rods
- Electricity
- Flogging
- Impact Play
- Role-play
- Sensual but Practical Rope Play
- Sensory Deprivation
- Vaginal Fisting
- Wax
Denise
Presenter/Photographer
Denise is everyone’s favorite (according to her Ma’am) unofficial official photographer. If you don’t recognize her from her 14 years in the Leather community, it may be because a camera has hidden her from your view. A native of Arizona, you may say Denise likes it hot. It is there that she lives with her most benevolent Ma’am and a horde of furbabies. She is excited and honored to serve on this panel with her fabulous co-leads. She is also grateful to the producers, both past and present, for making her part of the DESIRE family
Co-lead by Carol, Ronise and Denise
This panel of submissives, bottoms, and masochists will explore the rewards and challenges of being on the right side of the slash. The panel will lead discussion on the myth of the “perfect” submissive, how to not be a doormat, and protocols that work with your dynamic. However, they plan to let the discussion lead them. All are welcome but this is a “right side” focused topic.
Glenda Rider
Glenda Rider co-founded Lesborados in 1991, was the first female Eagle Bar
titleholder as Ms Baltimore Eagle 1992, and in 1993 co-founded FIST– Females
Investigating Sexual Terrain which celebrates 25 years this summer. In 1996,
she and Sarah Humble created Play House Studios and Gallery which was a
community based playspace and art gallery. Glenda was also the Owner and
one of the Producers of International Ms Leather & International Ms Bootblack
from 2006 – 2013. Currently serving on the BoD of the Mid-Atlantic Deaf
Interpreters Fund and residing in Baltimore, Glenda’s passions are all about
Making Play Happen!!!
- Friday 10:00 PM: Caning/Single Tails
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Caning/Single Tails
- Sunday 10:00PM: Caning/Single Tails
Workshop: Fisting – Will it Fit?!? , Saturday 10:00am – 11:30am
A ‘Hands On/Hands In’ workshop that covers the basic techniques and safety concerns about vaginal fisting. We will explore how being ‘filled up’ can lead to being completely connected to your body, your mind, your emotions and your sense of trust. And did I memtion the potential for super amazing orgasms?!? Come earn your red hanky!!!
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm, Saturday 3:00pm-4:00pm, and Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Canes and Rods
- Fisting
- Genital Play
- Leather Contests – History or Production or Running for a Title Creating and Running a BDSM Playspace – Both For Profit and Non-Profit
- Organizing and Running Community Based Organizations Organizing Leather/Kink Events – Both For Profit and Non-Profit
- White Folks Holding Other White Folks Accountable for Ending White Supremacy in Our Community
- How To Find Community – Navigating Social Media and Face to Face
- Opportunities to Connect Women’s Leather History – A Walk Down Memory Lane
- Handling Crisis in Community Fundraising Can be Fun 101 – From Jello Shots to GoFundMe and more..
- Toys..who needs toys?
Jae Marie
Presenter/Website Support
Website Support/Presenter
Jae Marie, Ms San Diego Leather 2016, who’s pronouns are she/her, is a poly, kinky, submissive with a dominant personality, who belongs to her Daddy, Leda. You can usually find her behind a bar taking care of event goers, flagging her red hankie on both sides, or running around volunteering. But let’s be honest, you’ll probably hear her before you see her!
Over the years, she’s dedicated herself to serving the community in San Diego and now in Seattle. Whether its DMing, teaching, emceeing or just a set of cold hands you need, she’s your girl.
- Friday 10:00 PM: Flash and Splash
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Flash and Splash
Workshop: Push, Grab, Pinch, Friday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
Excruciating lovely pain is at your fingertips.
Let your inner sadist be entertained by a fun way to make them squirm with painful delight with something as simple as your thumbs and elbows.
We will go over the various pressure points on a person’s body and demo what you should be feeling for. Come and see how 2 hands and a sadist can make a bottoms day!
Small Group Mentoring
- Rough Body Play/Stomping: Saturday 1:00pm-2:00pm
1-1 Mentoring topics:
Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm and Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Age Play
- Cell Popping
- D/s in Poly Relationships
- Daddy girl/boy Relationships
- Erotic Shaving
- Fire Play
- Fisting
- Flogging
- Genderflexing
- Impact Play
- Knife Play
- Little, Middles, Bigs
- Needle Play
- Play Piercing
- Spanking
- Straight Razors
- Vaginal Fisting
Jesbian Bagheera
Presenter/Lighting
Jesbian Bagheera is a leather femme dandy. She gets down and dirty at the SF Eagle bootblack stand as a switchy ashtray. When she is not up to her knees in shenanigans and sass, she is volunteering with The SF Little Scouts and SF girls of Leather. She has been licking leathers and force feeding cupcakes in the community since 2011. She previously held the title International Little Miss Little 2014 and Ms California Leather 2017. She continues to advocate for Leather Littles everywhere while continuing to build her education directory V.I.V.I.D. Leather for POC visibility.
Workshop: Service Littles, Saturday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
This class will explore the concept of Age Play as a Power Exchange with the role of the Dominant expressed as a Big and the role of the submissive expressed as a little. We will dig deeper into “the service little” defining multiple paths of service. This includes ways to not only give back to Bigs but also to the leather community at large. We adapt our class to all age players no matter their age and explore the concepts of how to be a “service little” with a can-do attitude. There will be a work exercise to begin developing unique service skills and mini tools to take home too.
Workshop: Fuck my Shit up, Please?, Sunday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Being direct and very blunt seems to be a mystifying artform. But it can be very useful in the scene and help navigate social merry-go-rounds. This includes but is not limited to how to say and hear the words “No”. It’s going to happen, rejection is apart of life. This class is all about advocating for your needs with positive and direct negotiation. It will consist of full participation exercises on how to ask directly for your needs and hear the words yes and no gracefully. Because if you don’t ask you will never know. And if you don’t listen you won’t learn.
Jesse
Presenter/Medic
Jesse has been part of the BDSM community since 1991 in Phoenix, Chicago, San Diego, Los Angeles, and to a lesser degree San Francisco. She is SCLW 2005, Knight of Leather 2004, and a graduate of J3A in 2008. Jesse is a sadomasochistic switch with extensive training in many areas of play. Fun is the name of the game!
Small Group Mentoring
- Wrap and Relax in the Pool – Pool Mummification: Friday 12:30pm-1:30pm
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Saturday 1:00pm-2:00pm, Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm, and Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Abrasion Play
- Blood Play
- Breath Play
- Canes and Rods
- Cupping – Fire
- Cupping – Vacuum
- Fisting
- Flogging
- Knife Play
- Medical Scenes
- Needle Play
- Play Piercing
- Spanking
- Vaginal Fisting
- Wax
Lady Steele
Lady Steele has served in the Leather community since 1999 wherein she has presented and volunteered across the country. She resides in Atlanta where she operates her law practice that serves alternative lifestyles. Lady Steele held the position of Social Coordinator for NLA – Atlanta during its last incarnation in Atlanta. She is the co-founder and co-lead of the Center of Learning and School of Success (C.L.A.S.S.), the Worthless Bastards (Cigar) Club (W.B.C. – Atlanta), and The Leather Coterie (T.L.C.). She continues to give back to the community as Board Support, convention Attorney, and Vendor Coordinator for the Leather Leadership Conference.
Nexus of Desires:
- Friday 10:00 PM: Sybian
Workshop: Consent: the Common Thread, Saturday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Consent is key in every single BDSM philosophy from the most strict to the most lax of protocols. This discussion will cover three very important areas of consent. First, consent before a scene will be discussed. This is where we will talk about negotiation. Second, consent during a scene will be discussed. This is where we will talk about the responsibilities of the scene members during their particular interaction. Last, we will talk about the consent of bystanders. This is where we will talk about scenes involving both intended and unintended bystanders as well as the scene members’ responsibility to both kinds of bystanders.
Small Group Mentoring
- (Sadistic) English Tea Service: Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm and Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Age Play
- Blood Play
- Bootblack
- Cutting
- D/s in Poly Relationships
- Daddy girl/boy Relationships
- Fisting
- Knife Play
- Little, Middles, Bigs
- Needle Play
- Negotiating Aftercare
- Negotiating/Writing Contracts
- Power Exchange
- Rough Body Play/Stomping
- Squirting
- Vaginal Fisting
- Cigar Service and Play
- (Sadistic) English Tea Service
- Finishing School: Service as Submission
Lauren Marie Fleming
Lauren Marie Fleming is an author, speaker, and writing coach, specializing in helping people find and tell their unique life story. She has presented workshops all over the world, from kink events to Ivy League Schools, and she’s excited to return to teaching at DESIRE, her favorite event of the year.
Workshop: Your best DESIRE!, Friday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Set the tone for a weekend of pleasure and delight with this interactive workshop. For DESIRE novices and veterans alike, we’ll go through some simple writing exercises to help you decide what your needs, wants, and can’t haves for the weekend are, and then help you make a plan to make your wildest desires come true. We’ll end the workshop with a quick meet-and-greet to connect people with potential play partners.
Small Group Mentoring
- Writing to enhance your kink/sex life: Saturday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Negotiating/Writing Contracts: Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
1-1 or Small Group Mentoring Topics:
Saturday 2:15pm-3:15pm and Saturday 5:30pm-6:30
- Cupping – Fire
- Cupping – Vacuum
- Elaborate scene planning
- Impact Play
- Negotiating Aftercare
- Scene Construction
Madison
Presenter/ASL Interpreter/Accessibility Coordinator/Equipment Staff
Madison identifies as a poly, lesbian switch who thoroughly enjoys the Art that is D/s, along with the fun of topping and bottoming. As a member of the Leather/BDSM community for 18 years, she has presented on Sensual Spanking, D/s Protocols and Archetypes, the Joys of Service, and served on panels discussing poly relationships, D/s dynamics and ageplay at various events around the West/Southwest. Madison serves the Community further by offering ASL interpretation at conferences, and happily volunteering for the greatest event every year: Desire! Madison has been a member of the Society of Janus, the Exiles, APEX and SFGOL.
Nexus of Desires:
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Spanking
Workshop: Sensual Spanking, So Much More Than a Smack on the Behind, Saturday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
The often overlooked art of spanking tends to be seen as a quick act of foreplay, or a ‘handy’ means of punishment. Rarely do we see spanking as a complete scene in itself. I am happy to challenge that misconception and show you how spanking can be sexy, powerful, erotic and above all, FUN! This workshop is suitable for players of all experience levels and all Leather orientations.
During this workshop we will discuss various spanking styles and purposes, as well as how to negotiate a spanking scene. You will then get to enjoy some delicious demonstrations, and if you bring along a top or bottom, perhaps even try your hand at spanking, or being spanked, yourself! My goal is to have every participant leave with a love of sensual spanking as strong as mine. Bottoms up!
Mistieyes
Presenter/Marketing/Advertising
Her Sweet Princess Domina Mistieyes (aka KL) is a San Diego-based lesbian and Dominant bottom who enjoys being in control of having her fantasies fulfilled through sensation, impact and other forms of play. She entered the leather scene in 2012. She has served as Advertising Coordinator for DESIRE Leather Women Unleashed since 2014. Mistieyes and her wife, EPIC Chef, Brownsexy have been together for 14 years. They are co-Dominants to Carla doll, their submissive of five years.
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Sybian
Special Event:
- Femme Circle Jerk Host (Sunday @ 4:15 PM) Area TBD
- Hat Parade Host (Sunday @ 11:0 am in the main grass area)
Small Group Mentoring
- Vibrator Play/Masturbation – Rm 5: Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm
1-1 or Mentoring Topics:
Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm
- Negotiating/Writing Contracts
- Vibrator Play/Masturbation
- Erotic Writing/Reading
Monica aka Auntie M
Monica is Owned and Operated by her Lady and has been for over 20 years. She considers herself a Queer Poly bottom weighed switch. Some of her favorite interests are age play and role play. Her alter ego Auntie M. will be telling stories and making tea again this year!!!
Auntie M. will be telling stories to littles and their Bigs under the stars. Come listen in a safe space for all. Coloring while listening is encouraged! Some coloring books and crayons will be supplied.
Special Event: Little’s Tea party (Sunday @ 11:00 PM)
This is a very special Tea party for Littles only (Bigs can come watch over their little during the party, but not required). We will enjoy our tea party in high style! We will play games for prizes. If you came last year you know this is not to be missed! The party is intended to be for all gender littles, please RSVP as space is limited. (You will receive a link to sign up)
Small Group Mentoring:
- Little, Middles, Big: Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
Naria
Naria Lei B. Jordan is the new Co-owner/Producer of DESIRE, IMsL Dungeon Coordinator, Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) 2012/2013, and Ms. San Diego Leather 2002. She is a longtime Radical Sex Perv Poly Daddy who has been involved in the Queer BDSM Community for 37 years as a practitioner, organizer, activist, and educator in the Kinky Arts. She co-founded two Women’s-only Leather groups in Washington, DC–Lesborados and S/Mazons. She was a co-founder, editor, and writer for the collectively published “Black Leather…In Color” and was the facilitator of the Women’s BDSM Rap in San Diego from 2007-2014. She was also the Co-facilitator for the Women’s BDSM Forum in the Modesto/Central Valley area from 2004-2006. A writer, national speaker and presenter, photographer, and fancier of Fine Fierce Femme Women, Naria is a relentless sex educator, a misunderstood yet flaming Pisces, a true Water Tiger, and always enjoys pushing the envelope–as often as possible! She spends her time in San Diego and Orange County with her primary partners, Bikkja Amy and Brigette, as well as 2 cats and 2 dogs, and a household of assorted pervs.
Getting older is an inevitable fact of life. It’s also a topic that isn’t openly and directly discussed in the Leather Community, yet it is something that affects, or will affect every single one of us. What are the physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual changes that occur as we get older, and how do they impact how we play and express our sexualities and desires? This workshop is open to all ages, with a specific focus on those players who are 50 and over.
1-1 or Small Group Mentoring topics: None
Pat Baillie
California born, Pat Baillie is a retired Air Force Major and a trainer by profession. Her work with the LGBTQ Community and Diversity are highlights of her career. On the leather side, she was Ms. San Jose Leather 1995 and then IMsL 1995. She worked to build community through LeatherWomen United, Albuquerque Pride, Consent Counts and producing Rio Grande Leather in Albuquerque, NM. She is the current Board President of the IMsL Foundation focusing on women’s leadership development, digitizing our history and creating quality education. She is a boy at heart and is in service to Lady Sharrin.
Workshop: Butch as an Endangered Species, Saturday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
In early lesbian days, you were either butch or femme. Since those days the range has expanded to include masculine, androgynous, genderqueer, transmasculine, dykes, queers and transguys. What is a butch and what does it mean to walk in the world clearly a woman but often mistaken for a man. Come join in the discussion and the discovery.
Workshop: Earn Your Teaching Hanky! Sunday 2:00pm-3:00pm
What’s in your bag of tricks? Being able to teach workshops, whether skills or knowledge based, is something you can take on the road with you! Producers are always looking for strong educators. Whether you are an experienced trainer or just starting out, there are tricks of the trade that you can learn, borrow and make your own in this workshop. How do you up your game and develop a presentation that shines and leaves your audience with new ideas and abilities. Join Pat as she provides not only the mechanics of developing a course but how to develop materials that build respect and challenges others to succeed.
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Friday 1:00pm-2:00pm, Friday 3:30pm-4:30pm, Sunday 11:00am-12:00pm,
- D/s in Poly Relationships
- Daddy girl/boy Relationships
- Doing Workshops
- Aging in the Leather community
- Creating Community
- Titleholding
Raven Darknights
Raven is the 2018 Mx International Olympus Leather Title holder and anything sharp and shiny piques their interest. As the gateway to sensuality, brilliant minds are especially compelling. Believing that how one thinks affects what one feels and what one does, Raven has explored the intricacies of flirtation, seduction, chivalry, and gallantry leading to the power of focussed intention.
Of course, razors and blades are sharp and shiny as well and Raven’s passion for the alchemy of heat, steel, water, stone and flesh turns a simple daily routine into a ritualized spiritual journey not to be missed.
Nexus of Desires:
- Friday 10:00 PM: Sensation Play
- Saturday 10:00 PM: Sensation Play
- Sunday 10:00 PM: Sensation Play
Workshop: Hot, Slick, and Smooth – Straight Razor Shave, Sunday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Does the idea of razor sharp steel on vulnerable skin get your juices flowing? Be a voyeur as someone gets all lathered up and Raven’s razor dances with flesh.
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Friday 2:30pm-3:30pm, Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm, and Saturday 2:00pm-3:00pm
- Erotic Shaving
- Knife Play
- Mind Fucks
- Scene Construction
- Straight Razors
- Brain Bondage/Creative Captivity
River Dark with domenique
Presenter/Dungeon Music
Workshop: Making Pain Last: How to get the most out of your bottom. Saturday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
Are you interested in how pain works? Are you interested in how to better help your bottom process and cope with pain? Have you and your playmate ever wanted to go deeper physically, but instead reached a wall that you can’t seem to get past? Have you ever wanted to push a bottom past what they think they can take? This workshop is for sadists who want to learn how to extend and deepen the amount of pain their bottom can/will take. Physical techniques, psychological techniques, pain management skills and the physiology of pain will be covered. Come explore the other side of the wall.
2 of 6 © 2018 River
Workshop: The Top and the Art of Topping: The Devil is in the details, Saturday 10:00am – 11:30am
What is a bottom looking for in a Top? Why do bottoms complain that there is a shortage of good Tops? It is a rare bottom who will bemoan the fact that they can’t find a Top who will flog them like so, use needles like so, or tie them up like so. Instead they talk about the characteristics of the Tops themselves. It is the flavor of the Top, not the specific skills, that is the main drawing power – and the glue that holds all the Top’s talents together. Drawing on a theatre background and her experience in D/s the instructor looks at the many verbal and non-verbal ways that a Top can present/create/re-create her/himself. Archetypes, voice, body language, basic NLP patterning, pacing, and scene construction are some of the things that will be explored.
1-1 or Small Group Mentoring Topics: None
Sharrin Spector
Workshop: Branding: Or As It Is Most Commonly Known, The Kiss of Fire., Sunday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
This course will discuss the major aspects of branding. Knowledge of skin, basic anatomy, skin types and healing. (SM 201 or permission of the instructor required)
Workshop: “I Love You Daddy”, Saturday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
…when service comes in more flavors!
Service…a boy on their knees, head down, hands behind their back…waiting! Hot fantasy and a reality for many but what happens when the relationships and energy pulls you to be the top, yet still in service. We talk about switching but this is more than that. What if your service is to be the Daddy and what does that look like? Join this Daddy and his girl on a journey through service in multiple dimensions and how it looks on the outside and how it feels on the inside!
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm and Saturday 5:30pm-6:30pm
- Branding
- Canes and Rods
- D/s in Poly Relationships
- Daddy girl/boy Relationships
- Playing/sexuality at 50+
T
T is a professional musician and teacher who has been
immersed in a rich tradition of study and training for over two
decades.
A sex-positive, genderqueer polyamorous switch who has been involved
in various BDSM/Leather activities and communities along the West
Coast for about half as long, T spends a lot of time hitting things
and exploring aspects of a life replete with aspects of mastery and
service.
Most recently performing or presenting at Kinkfest, NM Leather Life,
and Venus’ Playground at Folsom, T is looking forward to presenting at
DESIRE in 2019!
Workshop: Cogito Ergo Thud, Friday, 4:00pm – 5:30pm
“I know how to hit!?!” – that’s what you’re probably thinking. Yet there are simple techniques you can learn that would enable you to do so much more!
This hands-on workshop introduces practical ways to hit with increased accuracy, increased power, minimal effort, and reduced risk of injury. Come learn how to easily control the depth and type of impact, from sting to thud, and learn ways to increase the depth of focused connection between partners, top or bottom, through impact play.
If you have carpal tunnel, tennis elbow, rotator cuff, neck, back, or knee problems, or if you need to learn how to work with or want to prevent developing these issues, this is the session for you!
Workshop: POC Caucus, Saturday, 10:00am – 11:30am
Calling all People of Color! Circle discussion on topics the group would like to discuss around being black, indigenous, brown, people of color perverts, BDSM practitioners, sadomasochists, players…
Small Group Mentoring :
- Impact Play – Outside: Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
Teagan
Teagan fell in love with bootblacking at a young age, doing her shoes before church. Although these days her skills are being put to more salacious uses, she still identifies as a spiritual bootblack. For her, bootblacking harkens back to the foot-washing ritual. Teagan is International Ms. Bootblack 2018, and the 20th person to hold that title. She is based in Oakland, CA. During her title year she invited our community to “Take Refuge” in the capable hands of our bootblacks. She’s the Executive Producer of the San Francisco Bootblack Contest.
When asked recently what my favorite toy was, the answer was obvious: my boots. The boots we wear are good for more than just looking pretty, they make wonderful implements. Boots can not only be used as just a simple impact toy, but they are particularly effective for reinforcing or building a D/s dynamic. In this class we will, of course, talk about technique and safety but once we get through the basics, there will be some smoking hot demos. Upon leaving this class; you will not only have the tools to build a sexy stomping scene you will also leave with the ability to incorporate these skills to strengthen your relationship.
Workshop: Put a Hood On It!, Sunday 4:00pm – 5:30pm
Hi. I’m Teagan, and I put hoods on things. Everything is always better with a hood! Got a submissive for an impact scene? Put a hood on it! Planning a big needle scene? Put a hood on it! Almost every scene can be improved with a little bit of sensory deprivation. Or maybe you enjoy hoods just for the experience? Well, have you tried TWO hoods?!?! Put a hood on it! We’ve got leather, latex, and neoprene hoods for all to try!
1-1 Mentoring Topics:
Saturday 1:00pm-2:00pm, Saturday 2:30pm-3:30pm, and Sunday 10:00am-11:00am
- Body Bags
- Branding
- Cell Popping
- Erotic Shaving
- Flogging
- Impact Play
- Power Exchange
- Sensory Deprivation
- Straight Razors
- Stomping
- Rough Body Play
- Leather Worship
The Tigress
The Tigress (they/them) is a polyamorous, pansexual bicycle-riding nymph! A trans, genderqueer alien, they love fucking with the gender binary! A switch and proud of it, they revel in dominating, yet relish in taking a good, hard spanking. A proud slut, a body and sex positive orgy-enthusiast, this tiger is primal and ferocious, yet playful and protective. They will rip you apart and then purr like a kitten, and they’ll do it all with enthusiasm. A true hedonist and food sexual exhibitionist that loves to fuck with feet, they are constantly learning, growing, and evolving. Above all, The Tigress values consent, sexual health, and communication, and actively strives to bring attention to these issues. Their true passion is community organizing, especially in the queer and kink realms, and they dream of more inclusive, diverse, queer kink spaces. Oh yeah, and dismantling the cis-het white patriarchy.
Have questions about trans/non-binary/genderqueer/agender identities? Please feel free to ask me! I am happy to hold space for you.
This is a safer space for folx who identify as trans, non-binary, GNC, agender, genderqueer, and other non-cis-gendered gender identities. This discussion will center the voices of non-binary, genderqueer, queer, trans, and disabled folx and survivors. Racism, transphobia, homophobia, ableism, misogyny, and body-shaming will not be tolerated, and will be called in or called out.
Possible Points of Discussion (but not limited to the following):
-How can we make DESIRE, as well as other BDSM and kink spaces, safer for trans, non-binary, GNC, agender, genderfluid and genderqueer folx?
-Our experiences of being trans and/or holding non-binary/non-cis-gendered identities in the kink community
-Trauma-informed kink, BDSM, and play
Z
Z is a drummer, teacher, dancer, retired massage therapist, and enthusiastic bottom.
Workshop: Tissue Rolling, It’s therapeutic!!, Friday 2:00pm – 3:30pm
Tissue rolling is a simple myofascial massage technique that can be exquisitely painful for the bottom and requires relatively low exertion for the top. Grab, twist, roll; snap, crackle, pop. This hands on workshop will explore techniques as well as safety concerns for this sadistic, yet therapeutic, massage technique.
Small Group Mentoring
- Sadistic Massage – Outside: Saturday 1:00pm-2:00pm
1-1 or Small Group Mentoring Topics:
Sunday 1:00pm-2:00pm
- Impact Play
- Sadistic Massage
- Stretching and care for your body in and out of scene